Consulting in Real Time

After thirty four years of coaching people I have found a better way to be useful to my clients.   Motivated people do not want or need weekly office visits.  They want to see me once or twice and then have me available on the phone, 203-274-1069.  They want an overview of how to think about problems, and some suggestions as to possible solutions.

Often people can hear how complex emotional systems are created when one or two people come into contact.  Emotional systems drive the way people automatically function.  Learning to really think over our automatic tendencies is not easy.

You can read one example form my experience by clicking over to

http://ideastoaction.wordpress.com/consulting/consulting-to-organizations/

It does not come naturally to develop a way of reflecting, seeing the big picture  and learning to think strategically.  Most of the time we are just trying to get things done and only when big errors arise do we stop to rethink the whole situation.

It does not take a lot of time  for complexity to arise.  People need one another to accomplish a task and so the easiest thing is to tell others what to do and for the others to think they know better how to do the job than you do.

It is just hard to learn to ask questions than to give answers.

A coach enables you to talk openly with someone who has been there and who has learned how to think about the system and can enable you to do it too.

It does take time to deeply understand issues rather than reach for the fastest solution.

It can take time to really deeply understand how people are linked in any work system.

The kind of an effort makes it possible for people to take responsibility for whatever actions they choose.

As one becomes more clear about how emotional system function there is less need for a coach.  Then  coaching happens on an as needed basis.  People call when they want to and get a few ideas about what might happen if they do or do not take some action.

An outside viewpoint tends to giev people greater objectivity=  Its easy to get caught up in sidetaking.

The term REAL TIME coaching distinguish my approach from all kinds of formal coaching and from any kind of therapy.

This is not psychotherapy. This is professional coaching, when you want it.

Coaching appeals if you are stymied by any kind of people problem:

• Doing someone else’s job and not getting paid for it?
• (Does this happen in your family too?)
• Spending time complaining about others or your boss?
• (Think no one but you is willing to change?)
• (No matter what you do the others do not appreciate or will not do x, y or Z?)
• Finding it difficult to motivate people?
• (Do you find that not even money or threats can make people function well? )
• Confused as to how to relate well to others at work?
• (Are there people in your family that are a challenge whom you mostly ignore?)
• Do family crisis leaks over into your thinking during work time?
• (Find that you think about work while at home?)
• Afraid to tell your boss what you really think?

As a family systems coach, I’ve spent my last thirty plus years working with professionals to solve these sorts of work-related problems.

When a crisis happens, you want someone to talk to now. That is the beauty of REAL TIME COACHING.

It is designed to encourage professionals to be energized as thoughtful leaders when any challenges appear.

Here’s how it works:

1. Real Time Coaching

Rather than schedule weekly appointments, I give clients my email address

(arms711@aol.com) and cell phone number (203-2741069).

That way, you can drop me an email or give me a call at home – to get coaching when you need it. Rather than assess situations a few days after the fact, we deal with the events – as they happen.

I’ve found that knowledge of the emotional system plus timely coaching is key to making solid progress and achieving the sort of breakthroughs that prepare one to reach one’s true potential.

2. Understanding Your Family as an Emotional System

What’s the connection between how you were raised and how you handle frustration?

Which family habits from your formative years would you like to keep, and which would you like to change. (For example, “I want to keep my father’s generosity, but not his quick temper.”)

Over and over, I’ve found that it’s crucial to understand the family dynamic in order to make long-term progress. That’s why I start all my clients off with a detailed three-generation family history. In just an hour or two of conversation, my clients and I build the foundation for real progress. Emotional patterns are hard to see and harder still to break. Having contact with a coach that can stay loose and have fun, generates more freedom to think constructively.

I’ve created an introductory offer for visitors to my website – a free half-hour appointment to start the conversation and start understanding your family dynamic. It’s not enough time for a full three-generation family diagnostic, but it will give you a feel for how I work.

For your free half-hour appointment, drop me a line at Arms711@aol.com, or call me at 203-274-1069!

I am sure you will only contact me if you are serious about solving your work challenges, and reaching your life potential.

Just take the first step!

Andrea Schara